I listened to a recent Hardwood Hustle podcast on analytics during which Steve Shea from Shot Tracker discussed his study on whether teams with balanced scorers were more successful than teams with one or two dominant scorers. I thought I knew the obvious answer, mostly because it lines up more with my “ball view” of unselfish team basketball, but did a double take as Shea mentioned that the teams with superstar scorers often win more than teams with total balance. I’m going to ponder that for a while – after all a coach can always keep learning new ideas – but as I watched the Spurs dispatch the James Harden-led Rockets, I remain skeptical and once again, I have to give Pop (San Antonio Head Coach Gregg Popovich) his props. The man can coach and he certainly knows how to build a culture of team unselfishness. It’s an attitude similar to Christian monks and has relevance for each of us.
BASKETBALL – Team Culture
San Antonio lost veteran leader Tony Parker in Game 2 and then lost MVP candidate and two-time Defensive Player of the Year Kawhi Leonard near the end of a tight Game 5, but found a way to collectively persevere against the Rockets to win in overtime and then completely ran away with Game 6 to win the series. Houston had “do-everything” Harden who did nothing, while San Antonio had reserves, aging veterans, and a unified team approach that methodically dismantled the full throttle offense of the Rockets. The Spurs overcame losing Parker and Leonard with unheralded Dejounte Murray and Jonathon Simmons posting off-the-chart plus-minus stats, a slow-footed Paul Gasol protecting the rim against Houston’s relentless drives, and the aging Manu Ginobli taking over in crunch time of Game 5 – all made possible by Pop’s team culture (Fox Business outlined four aspects of Pop’s culture). While he takes heat for resting players in February, his bench players solidify their roles. While he’s considered crotchety with the media, his players learn from his example of caring for them and showing interest in their lives. And while the Spurs strictly adhere to the discipline of his system or face his wrath, Pop listens to and invites their observations and input. (Read more in The Business Insider and take a look at Pop speaking at a clinic on The Spurs Philosophy).
For most of us, the image of a monk conjures up images of a solitary, lonesome figure living a highly sacrificial and penitential life. But the Spurs players are like monks in that not only are they disciplined, but they know their roles because Pop has simplified it. The monk’s life is simple – depend on God. For the Spurs, their simplified rules are to work hard to care for and support each other, placing the focus on their teammates rather than on themselves. While they hold each other accountable, they don’t expect teammates to carry their load or do things they cannot do. The Spurs keep it simple and because they care about each other and know that their coach cares about them, they do all they can to help and support each other. They know it’s not about “me.” It’s about the team.
LIFE – Marriage Expectations
I actually read the idea of having a monk’s attitude in a devotion from Gary Thomas about marriage. How much better would my marriage be if I didn’t place unrealistic expectations on my wife to meet all of my needs? Wait a minute, isn’t that what marriage is all about – meeting each other’s needs and expectations? In strong marriages spouses know exactly what each other needs even without them saying anything, right? Uh, no, it’s not. While the goal of the Spurs is admirable, it’s not completely possible. No one can meet expectations – none of us. In basketball, in marriage, and in this life each of us fails. The only one who can truly meet all of my needs and truly love me is God. And, that’s not a knock on my wife. It’s simply a reminder that I shouldn’t place unrealistic expectations and my burdens on her. But what I can do is accept God’s perfect love for me and allow it to help me serve her and support her as best as I humanly can. Rather than resent her when she doesn’t respond as I would want, I can be overwhelmed by every act of love she expresses. A monk’s attitude in marriage expects nothing, depends on God for everything, and is sincerely grateful for whatever a spouse chooses to share. And as a result, one is free to focus on the other person rather than one’s self. Just imagine how that can improve a marriage!
FAITH – A Monk’s Attitude
I continue to see God working in my life through what I learn through basketball. If my life, as a coach, teammate, husband, and father needs to be validated by others, I will be continually disappointed. Some may say that is pessimistic, but why would I expect others to do things we as mere humans are incapable of doing? We cannot rely on and expect that other people will validate our purpose and existence, Last year I shared a bit about Robert McGee’s classic book, The Search for Significance, as we considered Damian Lillard and the Search for Respect. A major takeaway that has stuck with me is the concept that we should never put complete faith and expectations in other people because they will only let us down. And when we do, we give all the power to other people – spouses, teammates, and colleagues – to direct our outlook in life. Why would we do that? Only God can meet those expectations:
Don’t put your confidence in powerful people;
there is no help for you there. (Psalm 146:3 NLT)
I don’t want to run off to a monastery and I don’t want to teach players to live solitary lives, but I do think we could all use a little more monk in our attitudes – depend on God to meet your needs and lighten up our expectations for others by getting the focus off ourselves and putting the focus into showing appreciation for God’s love for us by how we treat each others. It’s starts with me, but it can’t be about me.